Deliver
1 Dec
2026
1 Dec
2026
On a date
Sends at the time you choose, in your time zone or theirs. Turn on “Ask me first” and we'll check with you a day, three days or a week before.
How it works
From the first line to the day it arrives.
Every message goes through the same five decisions. Here is each one, and what we do on your behalf after you seal it.
Write it
Pick what kind of message it is: love, apology, forgiveness, regret, gratitude, a confession, advice, a goodbye, or just because. Then write it, or attach a video or voice recording. Drafts save as you go.
Choose who
Pick one or more people. For each, add every way to reach them. Once a year we ask you to check their details, because addresses change over decades.
Choose when
On a date, when you're gone, or after you're gone on a date. Dated messages can ask you to confirm before they send.
Choose how
Email, text, printed letter or video page, with fallbacks. Decide whether they get a gentle notice first or the whole message at once.
Timing
Three ways to decide when.
Deliver
on my
passing
on my
passing
When I'm gone
Sealed until your check-ins stop, your verifiers confirm, and the grace period ends.
After me
14 Jun
2034
14 Jun
2034
After I'm gone, on a date
For a day that matters to them: a graduation, an 18th birthday, a wedding. If that date has already passed, you choose what happens.
Safeguards
Your safety plan.
You set it up once, and it covers every message marked for after you're gone. You can make it stricter for a single message, for example by asking both verifiers to confirm.
Check-ins
Pick how often (weekly to quarterly) and how we reach you: email, text, the app, a phone call. Any answer on any channel counts.
Verifiers
One or two people, usually a spouse, a sibling or a close friend. We only contact them if your check-ins stop. They can confirm you've died, or tell us you're fine.
Proof, if you want it
Ask for a death certificate before anything sends. It's slower, but it's the strongest check.
Obituary check
If you miss a check-in, we can also look for a published obituary. A match only means we ask your verifiers sooner. It never sends anything on its own.
Pause
Going into hospital or off the grid? Pause check-ins for up to 90 days.
Stop everything
Every reminder carries a link that stops all deliveries at once. Reply STOP ALL to any text and it does the same.
An example timeline
Monthly check-ins by email and text, a phone call, two verifiers, and a 14-day grace period.
Delivery
What happens on the day.
We release the key for each message and send it through every channel you chose, in order. The private link stays open for them for good. A printed letter is printed, sealed and posted within two working days.
If a channel fails (an email bounces, a number is out of service), we try the next. If every channel fails, we ask your verifiers to help reach them.
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Text message
“Hi Sam. Dana Whitfield left a letter for you with Since I'm Gone. Open it whenever you're ready: sinceimgone.com/l/7Q2K. Reply STOP to never hear from us again.”
Privacy
Who can see what.
- You
- Everything you've written, at any time.
- Recipients
- Only the messages addressed to them, and only after delivery.
- Verifiers
- That you named them, and nothing about your messages.
- Our staff
- Who your recipients are and how to reach them, so we can deliver. Never what you wrote.
- The public
- Nothing, unless you choose to share a message in the public archive. Then only after it's delivered, without names, and only if no one it's addressed to objects.